Email us your questions! - unfiltered@puredesire.org Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions: I’m 27 and married for four years with no kids. Six months in, I discovered my husband’s porn addiction and his solicitation of a prostitute. Over the years, he’s continued deceptive behavior, including porn use on a hidden phone, and refusing counseling. In February 2025, he received a threatening call from the 'cartel' (not the first time in our marriage). Though he promises to change, I no longer believe him. I’m considering creating my own life in another state while he works on recovery. Should I continue in this marriage? After 29 years of marriage, I’m newly single following my husband’s affair. He’s a Christian pastor who walked away from our marriage, claiming God released him, while he’s with a younger woman. Six months after discovering his betrayal, I’m finally starting to recover from the shock. I’m left with our kids, the house, and all the responsibilities. I’m struggling with the pain and confusion, missing him at times, and questioning how to focus my desires on God long-term. Why is healthy sexuality so difficult for many, and where is the church's accountability? How do you deal with husbands betrayal and the affair partner who gave birth to his baby 5 months ago? I made a decision to stay with him despite this but it is impossible to expect no contact when they have to communicate about the baby. Any suggestions?
Email us your questions! - unfiltered@puredesire.org
Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.
In this episode, we answer these questions:
- I’m 27 and married for four years with no kids. Six months in, I discovered my husband’s porn addiction and his solicitation of a prostitute. Over the years, he’s continued deceptive behavior, including porn use on a hidden phone, and refusing counseling. In February 2025, he received a threatening call from the 'cartel' (not the first time in our marriage). Though he promises to change, I no longer believe him. I’m considering creating my own life in another state while he works on recovery. Should I continue in this marriage?
- After 29 years of marriage, I’m newly single following my husband’s affair. He’s a Christian pastor who walked away from our marriage, claiming God released him, while he’s with a younger woman. Six months after discovering his betrayal, I’m finally starting to recover from the shock. I’m left with our kids, the house, and all the responsibilities. I’m struggling with the pain and confusion, missing him at times, and questioning how to focus my desires on God long-term. Why is healthy sexuality so difficult for many, and where is the church's accountability?
- How do you deal with a husband's betrayal and the affair partner who gave birth to his baby 5 months ago? I made a decision to stay with him despite this but it is impossible to expect no contact when they have to communicate about the baby. Any suggestions?